If Clansman's wants to learn to write his own FEM code, then there's no better book than Bathe, but if he wants to learn to use FEM for solving problems, that's the worst book to read. Get a copy of Building Better Products by Vince Adams & Abraham Askenazi, get your university text book on...
I'm astonished that an illegal website would spark so many messages around it. It's not even worth a second look, much less to be looked into further.
I think if it's about getting legal free or low cost FEM software, the ace would be the Code Aster solver, it's unbelievably awesome & free. A...