For a composite beam (stepped I values along length), calculate local bending deflection in each piece, local rotation in each piece, rotation at the bottom, rotation at the top, deflection at the bottom, deflection at the top- work your way up. It's not just y1 + y2.
For the cone, you can assume a stress distribution similar to a cylinder and calculate moment, strain, and rotation along the length to find an average I. Using I at the small end should be conservative, using I at the large end should be unconservative.
Shear deflection may be significant as well, depending on diameter.