There IS NO STANDARD for P&IDs- it varies from company to company and plant to plant. We see customers who try to treat P&IDs like piping drawings, identifying all sorts of connection types and locations, while we see others who don't even show all the VALVES that can give the operator access to the process fluid (i.e. the delete drains, vents and flush/bleed ports on transmitters etc.).
I personally believe that a P&ID should show every valve that gives the operator access to the process, but should not attempt to be a piping drawing. If you must keep track of every connection and joint which might become a point of emission in a piping system, your only recourse is to keep a set of accurate as-built pipe routing and isometric drawings. A 2-D P&ID cannot do a decent job of representing that information anyway, without losing its ability to fulfill its core functions.