The force required for set-down will depend on what type of weld nut you are using, as well as the dimension of the pilot height (if it is a piloted design). I recommend using DaimlerChrysler Corporation Process Standard No: PS-1804, WELD NUTS - PROJECTION WELDING as a guide for this type of process-- it gives details on suitable weld schedules, requirements for push-off forces, torsional strength, etc.
As an example, for a TYPE EE piloted projection weld nut (6 projections), Property Class 10, the weld schedule would should look like this:
Electrode Force Weld Time Current
Newtons (Lbs) cycles K-amps
M12 (1.19 mm pilot) 6670 (1500) 11-13 22-24
(1.178 mm pilot) 8900 (2000) 16-20 23-25
M14 (1.19 mm pilot) 8900 (2000) 14-16 25-27
(1.78 mm pilot) 10680 (2400) 19-23 26-28
I guess everything is relative, but the forces aren't that high, though I don't claim to be an expert in pneumatic cylinders. Good luck with your project.