You can get a direct appraisal of the distribution by modeling half your washer and plates. Assume the load of the nut or torque is applied entirely on the upper part of the washer and you can even (for a start) dismiss the ability of slip (it shouldn't, it is a slippage critical connection) of the washer, and then support on vertical fixity out of simmetry the plate. Model 3D in Autocad or Inventor, put the load and restraint, allow xy movement analyze and read the reactions, they will give you the radial distribution you are searching for.
Without that, you can also proceed as in a problem of maximums and minimums: Assume some decaying pressure, say a straight line or quarter of a ellipse from the outer rim of the washer. The total integrated stress must equal the force but the constant stress under the washer is varied in the maxima and minima problem. Taking the lesser torque provided by the minima will be safe IF the law assumed for the pressure models well enough the pressure.