Kivi,
I'm just talking this out, so bear with me.
It sounds like you are talking about a lean cement/grout or CLSM-like material. I haven't worked with cement-emended tailings/backfill, so I'm not personally familiar with the characteristics, but if I recall correctly, you need to keep the slump high to be able to pump the slurry (thus the 60-75 percent solids - is this by weight/mass or volume?).
The Portland Cement Association indicates that the unit weight of CLSM is usually 90 to 120 pcf (in place) and usually begins to set in 1 to 8 hours. Typical slump is greater than 10 inches for CLSM.
Unless specifically designed for, CLSM is generally denser than water, so any excess water in the slurry would tend to be displaced and rise to the surface of the fill.
Kivi, I'm thinking that what you may be seeing in your field tests of lateral pressure is that the bottom of the cemented backfill may be setting up before you get the fill level to the top of the wall. As the material sets up and becomes more self-supporting, the lateral pressure exerted on that portion of the wall goes toward zero.
I would test the speed of setting of your material - possibly by casting small cylinders. To be really cutting-edge, you could place them in molds that you could subject to axial confining pressure and plot the curing time vs axial pressure to see if the bottom layers set faster or slower due to the pressure.
What you have is a situation where the short-term pressure against the retaining structure should be similar to the in-place density. You will likely need to test the in-place density from the mix design and/or unit weight tests of cored backfill. Regardless of the rate of fill behind the retaining structure, I would still recommend that you design for at least this in-place density. However, as this is a temporary condition, you could use probably use reduced factors of safety against sliding and overturning for the design of the retaining structure.
I would check with the regulatory authority to see what reduced factors of safety are permitted (if any).
Good Luck!
Jeff
Jeffrey T. Donville, PE
TTL Associates, Inc.