dik -
I don't think he's talking about FEM design. Rather, he's talking about traditional connection design... just done programmatically with the equations and such reported.
There are a number of connection design programs out there. Some built into other software, some stand alone. For the purpose of this repose, I'll limit the ones I know of to the stand-alone programs that focus on steel:
1) You already mentioned RAM's program.
2) RISA has a connection program. Note I was the program director for this product for a couple of years. Though I now work for a competitor to RISA.
3) Civil Bay - I hadn't heard of this one until my latest google check. Looks okay.
4) Steel Tools - This is more like a repository for people to upload their share-ware spreadsheets and such. It might have stuff that you could use.
5) DesCon or DesConPlus - This is sort of the grand daddy of connection design programs. I'm not sure who owns it now. But, the original developer (Omer?) was very well regarded and respected.
6) There was an australian company that did really good connection design, if I recall. But, I don't remember the name and it didn't come up in my internet search.
RISAConnection:
I have a bit of a bias towards RISAConnection as I have so much experience with it. Plus, the interface, results presentation and such were somewhat hard wired towards my preferences. The only drawback with that program is that I don't really trust the current team over at RISA. The developers themselves are brilliant Ukrainian mathematicians and programmers. But, they are not structural engineers. They need structural engineers with knowledge and experience guiding them. I don't have much confidence that the current management at RISA can provide that... as they've gotten rid of most of their most knowledgeable engineering staff since Nemetschek took over.
DesCon / DesConPlus:
DesCon is probably the most highly regarded and well known of these programs. It's interface and output always seemed a little dated to me. But, I haven't seen the latest. A quick perusal of their website suggests that they've updated a good bit.
RAM Connection:
RAM Connection: My sense is that this is kind of a poor man's RISAConnection. Does most of the same stuff (maybe even more total connections), but the interface and the output look kind of clunky.