You'll need multi-layer lossy backing, single layer won't absorb enough. Might need an FSS LPF to help the high end.
One octave vs. two octaves is a big difference.
Conformal always has "the H plane problem". H plane antenna pattern is always narrow. You might want to measure/calculate V and H polarization patterns separately and watch the H plane narrow as the reason for your axial ratio problem. When flushmounted, there's an automatic rolloff in H plane that narrows the antenna pattern. If you're alllowed to have it protrude slightly or curve, that'll help.
good luck