The removal of gold plating on components is covered in MIL spec, and is dealt with using a 'double dipping' method.
Darn frustrating too, you pay extra for the components, and then have to purchase and maintain equipment, and pay staff to remove it before the componet can be used.
That said, IPC 610 level three does not suggest that gold should not be used for high specification assemblies, and until an alternative finish with equal to or better solderability and shelf life properties than gold (sorry all those reps trying to sell tin, silver, and organic finishes), and as flat a surface, gold looks likely to stay with us.
Don't be scared of it though, gold joints are all around us, controlling lifts, computer systems, nuclear powerstations (now I'm scaring myself), and I know that boards I've made are actually floating around in satellites
Steve Bull
PCB and Quality Engineer