evelrod,I do agree with you, but we cannot rule out luck 100 %.There are uncertanities everywhere.But sure luck alone will not take any one anywhere.But I disagree with you on attitude to job.Whether high flier or not, one should enjoy work,It should not be a job ,but passion.We have never seen a foot ball player or base ball player complaining of hard work,long hours or monotony.Job should be like that.Every Monday morning you should be sizzling to run to your job site or office.If you are not feeling like that, seek for something like.
I too have two sons and similar disappointments.But we cannot expect our children to thread the same line like us.Type of job is immaterial, I think, it the capacity,zeal to excell,that is important.I had a Japanese friend for long years.( poor soul,no more)He had only high school education,but by sheer hard work and diligence he rose to become star electrical designer in a reputed transformer company for many years.His only son was not prepared to go to university, but decided to work as a hair dresser in a small town.My friend was upset initially,but later confided to me that he had no regrets as his son was excelling in his job,rather he was becoming a high flier in his trade!
I could not understand what message ctopher is giving me.Does he mean I am usig words without understanding meaning? May be.But I would have obliged if he pointed out appropriate word to me.English is not my mother tongue,but the third language for me and I dont claim any authority on it.( probably on anything!) But I know that in language, words have different meanings at different areas and in societies.I am a follower of Queen's English and my favourite Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary (2000) give the following meaning:
Society = people in general,living together in communities( eg today's society)Community of people who share same customs and laws.(modern industrial society)
Cultural = connected with the culture of a particular society or group, its customs or beliefs
Culture= way of life, the customs and beliefs ( working class culture)A country ,group etc with its own belief
Malady= serious problem
I dont think I was far out in conveying my thoughts.
But in the part of India where I live now, a society means a cluster of houses and forms part of our address.Does it mean that is the only meaning of that word?
Words apart, what I want to stress was the compulsions of society in moulding certain behavioural patterns.In my younger days I was working with a Japanese company, I lived there and watched in close quarters their cultural norms.During parties, it was a pattern for even middle level executives to boast that they are seeing their child only on Sundays, because they will start for work too early and reach home very late.I was wondering what they were losing in life.But I found the same people sticking to 8 hour schedule once they were working in a different country.