RO calculations are a bit shrouded in mystery for liquids especially.
I found a couple of on line calculations and the answer seems to be around 17 to 20 bar differential, but as the velocity goes up the change in flow per differential pressure seems to go down.
you're looking at about 35 m/sec through your RO which is getting pretty serious and maybe you're getting into choked flow / cavitation issues at that rate which causes all sorts of problems.
I haven't got the paramters for oil exactly, but you really need to find an RO vendor and get them to give you the data.
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