PH163RD,
Did you actually design this connection? By this I mean determine the maximum force in a bolt and choose a size and material that will carry this force with an adequate safety factor? If so and you're breaking bolts one of three things is happening.
1) You made a mistake in your design.
2) The bolts really aren't as strong as the manufacturer is claiming.
3) You've got a larger load on the connection than you think, like in a case where someone has told you the scoreboard your supporting weighs 5000 lbs but it really weighs 10,000 lbs! (The numbers are made up, but this really happened. I remember reading it in ENR several years ago.)
Point is, you really need to figure out what is going on, not just stuff the holes with stronger bolts until it works. If this is a human safety application (a building, the drive shaft on your car) then this is even more true.
By the way, it's grade 10.9 not 10.8. There is also a grade (technically class) 12.9. I don't know how available it is.
When you say "mildsteel" (sic) that suggest to me that you really don't know what you have. I don't know much about metric standards but you need to be ordering bolts that conform to some minimum strength requirements and have documentation (material certs) to prove it. Not something off the shelf at Ma and Pa's local hardware store.
Good luck