In my experience, whether or not the adjacent roof will be upgraded is determined at the preliminary stages. If the adjacent owner is unwilling, the project dies. If the project proceeds I have always been engaged by my client to add reinforcing of the neighbours roof to my scope of work (doesn't always have to be that way). It would be possible that the adjacent owner wants to use their own engineer and that is fine too.
In my opinion, if an engineer is designing additional stories that will result in drifting, it is imperative that the snow drift loading for the adjacent roof be noted on the plans along with a note indicating that the adjacent roof needs to be structurally reviewed and possibly upgraded. In my area, generally the AHJ would withhold issuing a permit for the additional stories until such a time as they had an engineers report saying the adjacent roof was ok for the additional drifting or an engineered design for the upgrading of the roof. Occupancy for the additional stories would not be granted until such time as all the work was completed on both projects.