The only time we have had problems getting signed and sealed calcs from the joist fabricators is on a job where our specs inadvertently were worded in such a way to require both the shop drawings and the calcs to be signed and sealed. Once this typographical error was brought to our attention, we clarified only the calcs needed to be S&S.
Also, we always show a gross uplift diagram on our drawings showing the various specialty trades (joists, deck, roofing, etc) exactly what gross uplift loads they should use for their calculations. However, if we did not have this, they would still be able to calculate it for themselves as in FLorida you are required by teh FBC to clearly state the wind design parameters on the structural drawings. This way, any specialty engineer, from anywhere, can correctly calculate the wind pressures for the particular building/site conditions.
I think Lutfi is right on. There is definitely some break down in the communication process here that a conference call would clear up right away, I am sure.