I can't think of a textbook that's going to help you. AISC has (had) two books "Engineering for Steel Construction" and "Structural Steel Detailing" that show some limited examples of drawings, but the former is more oriented toward design and the latter, toward detailing.
I learned by getting a set of drawings and asking questions of a senior engineer. I suspect most engineers do it the same way. It's not rocket science, but it does involve good two or three dimensional thinking skills.