If you are using a positive displacement pump, pressure pulsation could be contributing to your problem. Flow from a positive displacement pump is not continuous. It fluctuates about a mean flow. As a result, the discharge pressure pulses at a frequency proportional to the drive speed. Normally the pressure pulses are not large because the flow fluctuation is not large, but, if the pulsation excites a resonance in your system, the pressure pulses can be very large and damaging. If this is part of your problem, you may be able to eliminate it with an in-line suppressor.
Another contributor could be shaft hardness. If the shaft is soft it will wear out quickly.