lewanj,
If your supplier (or manufacturer) is obviously not being helpful or truthful (allowing for normal sales & marketing nonsense), it is time to find another source. If they are trouble before they get your money, you can count on them being much worse after they have your money.
Get information for multiple competitors' products and pay some close attention to the range of performance claims for seemingly similar devices. If the claims of one or two manufacturers seem seriously inconsistent with the claims of others, it is likely that the majority are likely to be more credible. You may still eventually get the device from a supplier with questionable performance claims for other valid reasons, but you may want to discount their performance claims and choose a more suitable product from their line.
As far as your computations are concerned, it is best to rely on known, proven equations (dust off your old fluid mechanics, thermodynamics, ... textbooks) and put those many hours of classwork and homework to some good use. Where you are unsure of information on particular components' performance, some well reasoned guesswork will be in order. Try some reasonable approximations and you should be able to set some reasonable upper and lower bounds for likely performance. If what you need is somewhere in that presumably credible range, then most likely, the results your wise & prudent guesses and estimates should guide you in determining whether the planned system can reasonably be expected to function adequately.
Doing some serious "playing" with parameters in your spreadsheet, you may find that some other elements may be more important than you initially realized. For example, there may some surprising benefit to changing the suction line size or revising some of the piping configuration.
Valuable advice from a professor many years ago: First, design for graceful failure. Everything we build will eventually fail, so we must strive to avoid injuries or secondary damage when that failure occurs. Only then can practicality and economics be properly considered.