I think we agree about:
1: It would be quite silly to drive piles (or do any vibratory work) next to fresh concrete. In my own line of work (concrete restoration) we have an industry "rule" that you cant chip next to a fresh pour for at least 3 days. But mostly that's a proxy for 75% strength.
2: Communication with those that have ultimate authority and fancy themselves relatively bright, is best done via inception. If they are wrong, and you know it, telling them that they are wrong is a horrible way to accomplish your own end. One must plant their idea in the head of the authority figure so they think that they generated it! As you point out, pretending that you are silly and asking questions so they can explain it to you is a great way to do this.
I think(?) we disagree about:
3: Who holds the power in such a situation. If I am the contractor on a job and the engineer happens to espouse a divergent view about how I should proceed and it is worth my while to push back, then I should and would regardless of how much authority the owner has bestowed upon them. I absolutely agree that tact 1 through 6 should be inception or a similar technique. However, if steps 1 through 6 were to fail I have the ability to go to step 7. Step 7 is the dig your heels in step. So while they might have the authority to direct me to use a particular method (I am not disputing that), I have the ability to charge the owner for it. And since I have the ability to push for compensation, I don't really view it as an appreciable power struggle. It's just more time and money for the owner and more aggravation in all our lives for little reason.
BTW I would say the vast majority of the time disagreements are not worth pursuing and giving the other person the win is just better for all. However, when said view starts to cost real dollars than that no longer applies (or cases where the designer basically wants to play Russian Roulette with will this stand up once we strip it...who knows lets find out!).