People write pages and chapters on these subjects but quickly;
Generators in parallel.
1> The load (KW) that each generator will accept depends on the throttle setting of the engine or prime mover. This may cause a slight interaction with the frequency.
The Classic control scheme is to run the governors in droop mode. At no-load the generators run 3% fast and drop to nominal speed/frequency at full load.
2> The VAR sharing depends on the voltage setting. There is a scheme called cross current compensation or the quadrature circuit which biases the AVRs to compensate for small inequalities in AVR settings. In practice, with a normal load, the set in your example that has the higher voltage setting will take a larger share of the VAR demands. If your example voltages are stand-alone voltages, the cross currrent compensation will work to reduce the difference when the sets are in parallel.
3> Do the imbalances cause damage? Usually small imbalances cause one set to take more than its share of the load. Governor issues cause KW sharing issues. Voltage setting issues cause VAR sharing issues.
4> One set may take more than its share of the KW load while the other set takes more than its share of the VAR demand. There is very little interaction if any between speed settings and voltage settings on paralleled sets.
BUT
If the sets are heavily loaded, sharing issues may cause one set to be overloaded. This may be a current overload (with heating issues), a mechanical overload with prime mover issues or both.
Governor issues may cause mechanical overloading which may lead to overcurrent issues.
Voltage setting issues generally lead to overcurrent and heating issues.
And, a severe unbalance under light loading may cause the unloaded set to "Motor". This does not generally cause immediate damage but if the condition persists may lead to wet stacking or slobbering. This is a carryover of lube oil into the exhaust system. Some piston rings particularly when old, do not seal well without the force of combustion. Also, any lube that passes the rings will eventually be pushed out into the exhaust system instead of being burned with the fuel in the combustion chamber. When the engine is again put under load, the wasted lube oil may be ignited in the exhaust system, it may be expelled, (messy) burning lube oil may be expelled from the exhaust or an explosion inside the exhaust system may result.
This used to happen when the operator tried to stop a generator but forgot to open the circuit breaker first. A common design feature is a reverse power relay/trip to avoid this event. The last time I saw this happen I replaced a faulty reverse power relay.
Another possible issue may be damage to the fuel injection system. Some injection pumps depend on the flow of fuel for lubrication and extended operation with no fuel flow may cause damage. While most diesel engines will run on jet fuel, it will also lead to damage to some injector pumps due to insufficient lubricity.
Bill
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