I am in the position of a German 'internal for a company/for larger customers' technical paper describing materials allowed and recommended for solenoid valves for different fluids and temperatures. I have found this, through some decades, very reliable.
For glycoel (note: ethylen glycol ( C2 H6 O2) 100% concentration, at 120 deg C, this paper recommends for dynamic sealing elements FKM, EPDM, Kalrez and PTFE. Not recommended is NBR, CR CSM and Delrin. Not recommended for static sealing is PP, PVC; PVDF, NR, NBR and CSM.
As a fact any elastomere will absorb and swell any fluid on a microscopic level, the question is only how much and how fast under the given circumstances, from not measurable to bothersome and disturbing the functionality of the component.
Anything varying from the 'norm' could influence your RPTFE status: porosity or composition of your reinforcement of PTFE, or the PTFE itself, additives and impurities or variances in the 'glycol' (unknown additives?), unknown factors in the process ( cleaning agents, impurities etc?), mechanical faults etc.
Conclusion: RPTFE should be a reasonable choice. Given that it obviously does not work, I will agree with btrueblood for try of alternative materials.
A good idea would also be to check the valvetype itself, and that the 'swelling' is not a result of drawn out material by improperly closed valves (cracked open, or damaged seal with hairline opening giving underpresurre over the sealing and leaking (cavitation conditions?)).