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imok2

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Oct 21, 2003
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What advice can I give to the young people today that I believe can help them live a better life because it is based on my experience. I barley graduated high school because I found it boring but I stayed in because I loved playing baseball and football. When I graduated I really had no real life skills but I did have a lot of self esteem because I was quite good in athletics. I went to work at Douglas Aircraft and was put to work making form blocks and stretch dies within a month I was quite good at it. Within three months I joined the Marine Corps and I loved boot camp and the discipline of it all. I was assigned to Marine Corps Base, 29 Palms CA. 1st AAA-AW Battalion for the next 21 months. While there the Battalion decided to hold a competitive event consisting of setups, pushups run the 440, fire the grease gun, 50 Cal machine gun, the Browning automatic rifle, and get a rifle grenade in a 55 gal drum from 50 yards out. I told a friend I was going to win that in my class (Private and PFC) I did win in my class and was designated “Outstanding Individual Marine”. They gave me a medal and my name was engraved on a trophy Plaque to be maintained in the administration office. I never went to see It! From there I got out, learned Refrigeration and Air Conditioning eventually went to work for the County of Los Angeles where I worked my way up from a service mechanic to Application Engineer to Supervisor To the Highest technical Position of Craft head of Steamfitters and Refrigeration fitters I acquired three degrees along the way with honors was a member of Local# 250, U.A.. I tell you this not to brag but to let you know It was a result of self-esteem (a belief in yourself) I found this on the web:

Self-esteem is defined as “belief in oneself” or “undue pride in oneself” (Webster’s Third New International Dictionary,1986). It is also a student’s awareness that he or she is a
person of worth or value simply because he or she is a human being. Self-esteem is recognizing that because one is treated with respect by others, one is worthy of respect. Finally, it is
a sense of self-confidence resulting from successful completion of attempted tasks. Do yourself a favor, just believe you can and you will succeed>

 
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imok2,

The word "I" was used in your first paragraph 24 times. (I, Latin for Ego.) You want to give young people some advice? Instill in them a sense of duty and service which I suspect is the real reason behind your success. Self-esteem needs to be tempered with modesty.

Warning: your idea of what "live a better life" means will differ from others. It would be interesting to ask the young people what the phrase means to them.
 
"Quote" The word "I" was used in your first paragraph 24 times. (I, Latin for Ego.) You want to give young people some advice? Instill in them a sense of duty and service which I suspect is the real reason behind your success. Self-esteem needs to be tempered with modesty.

Warning: your idea of what "live a better life" means will differ from others. It would be interesting to ask the young people what the phrase means to them.

Of course the word I was used 24 times because me was talking about me. My intention for the post was to hopefully inspire other people who may not have the self esteem they should have and hopefully live a happier life. Boy, I cannot believe the negitive responses this post has created. OK here's my idea of a better life. start with practically nothing, meet the love of your life and after 47 years still be in love, have some kids(boys) who turn out to be successful in their work and your best friends have grand children (10)who who come by and always kiss me and their grandmother and say they love us and who clean our pool, build a 32 roadster with their tools and some of mine in my garage which I gave them, work , go the community college Etc,etc get the point? Thats my idea of a decent and good life all brought about because I believed in myself along with others who loved me. Maybe I'm taking some of your comments too personnel, If I am it's because I have always believed that if you believe you can you will become the person you really are and of course it should be accomplished by not deminishing others.
 
imok2, it sounds like you've achieved a lot in life and I could happily accept your definition of a decent life.

Frankly what you put doesn't come across as particularly arrogant, to me at least.

However, while there are I'm sure many with a lack of self esteem, within Engineering I've encopuntered more that I would consider at the other end of the spectrum.

Maybe it's a glass half full thing.

KENAT,

Have you reminded yourself of faq731-376 recently, or taken a look at posting policies:
 
I think it is just one of those irregular adjectives, conjugated as follows:

I am self-confident, you are a bit of a big-head, he is arrogant.



Cheers

Greg Locock

SIG:please see FAQ731-376 for tips on how to make the best use of Eng-Tips.
 
Sorry imok2, I completely misunderstood you. I thought you were looking for advice on mentoring/giving talks to young people about self-esteem. The point was that, instead of talking about all your accomplishments item by item (which would come across as having a big ego), temper it by instilling a sense of duty and service. About the "live a better life" comment, rather than defining it from your standpoint, have your audience tell you what they think "live a better life" means.
 
quote "I hate myself for reading this post".
See that's what I mean, you need to improve your self esteem and become happy like me LOL
 
Not self-esteem, self-respect. One implies unconditional love, which is fine in its place. The other encourages esteem born of action and responsibility to self, others, the community and world.~A Writer Afoot
 
"...have some kids(boys) who turn out to be successful in their work..."

I've got three girls - oh well, so much for a happy life. I guess I'm doomed...


If you "heard" it on the internet, it's guilty until proven innocent. - DCS

 
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